wonder why?! How does she/he always have so much chaos in their life? The friend may constantly ask why does this stuff always happen to me? I believe the drama is always present, because there is unresolved trauma. "Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea." * Trauma can be as big as a major event in your life. And more times than not, it is actually something that you repressed or do not even believe was that big of a deal.

When I was in the 3rd grade my family moved to a new home which meant I changed
schools. It was very stressful for me. As a result, I was having chronic headaches and
nausea.
I remember telling my teacher that my head hurt, and I wanted to call my parents. She
looked at me and said, "if I had a head like that I would hurt too."
Now you can imagine how embarrassed I was as a new kid in a school in the 3rd grade.
That is a form of trauma.
What followed was years of drama for me in school.
I was that girl who always had some kind of crazy on my tail. I started studying trauma
and getting to the roots of all that drama.
One of clients recently told me she had a great childhood filled with wonderful memories
of her family. No trauma in her past. Yet her current and past relationships were filled
with drama. HMMM... Something was not adding up in my mind.
Months into our sessions she revealed truths about a family member who she did not
want her children to be around. Why I asked. Well, I just don't trust that person. Oh.
Now we are getting somewhere.
After a deep dive into the story behind the story. There was a deeply hidden trauma that
revealed why all her relationships were playing out in a way that left her feeling rejected,
abandoned, humiliated, and lonely.
The past few years have been filled with trauma for all of us. The constant unrest in our
culture, Covid-19, the horrible mass shootings to name a few of the traumatic events for
us... All of us are experiencing some kind of trauma-response.
So how is it showing up for you?
Here are some common signs that you are experiencing some form of trauma or PTSD:

Back pain;
Addictive Behaviors (drinking, gambling, eating, social media, binging);
Irrational Anger, Irritation, Agitation with everyone and everything;
Anxiety (heart fluttering, foggy brain, scattered mind);
Insomnia;
Depression, loss of motivation, loss of interest, avoidant behaviors;
Simply having constant drama in your life is a sign.
What can you do about it?
Here are 10 ways to manage the pain:
1. Journal when you get triggered. Begin to bring awareness to the reactions whether it
is the pain body or the emotional dramas that are playing out in your life.
2. Practice the STOP DROP & ROLL
Stop and notice what is going on in the moment.
Drop the story or the defense mechanism.
Roll into the present moment with conscious compassion of Self and the other
person involved.
3. Breathe into the moment. Your breath is your medicine. Breathe into the heart space.
As you breathe into the body, the nervous system will recognize you are safe.
4. Affirm I AM OK.
5. Breathe into the pain. Where there is physical pain, there is a lack of oxygen. When
you breathe into the back it releases the stress.

6. Walk barefoot outside to get grounded and surrender your pain.
7. Remember your true essence is LOVE. I AM LOVE.
8. Set a clear intention to live a life filled with peace.
"Remember that your ability to activate the power of intention in your life
depends on your matching up with the creative Source of all life . . . Fail to match
up . . . and the power of intention eludes you."
9. Meditate. Meditate. Meditate. Sit down for 7 min and just breathe in and out. Listen to
a fan and breathe.
10. Focus on your thoughts. You get what you think about whether you want it or not.
“We become what we think about, and Emerson reminded us: “The ancestor to
every action is a thought”
Try these tips and let me know what worked for you. You can heal your mind, body, and
spirit. If none of these tips work, call me. Let's do a session. I offer a free 30 min consult.
I am also on several insurance panels now. Let me know when you are ready to heal
the pain that is holding you back from living your best life.

I want you to live on purpose with passion and peace!
Namaste,
jen

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